#if you really want to engage then send me an ask. this isn't a discussion post

[kratomqueen]

I don't post all that much about the Israel/Palestine conflict itself, because while I am horrified by deaths of so many innocents and want to see a peaceful two state solution, at the end of the day my posts about it aren't going to change anything. The IDF and Hamas aren't reading my blog. There's also a lot of misinformation on both sides, and I don't have the time or energy to determine the validity of everything before sharing it

However, posting about the anti-semitism that has made it's way into discourse about the conflict may actually make a small difference. A lot of people are unwittingly spreading anti-semitic tropes, so spreading awareness can help prevent that, on an individual level. My son is Jewish on his dad's side so it is an especially important cause to me. That's why almost all of my posts relating to I/P are about that

I just wanted to clarify that so no one gets the wrong idea that I don't care, or that I support the Israeli government...people on this website love to jump to conclusions

[lurkingshan]

Well! I love nothing more than when a show immediately validates my read of the themes and character dynamics. Thank you, Love Sea!

This show is excellent, and I am really impressed by how seriously it's taking the class and queer politics of this relationship. That shower scene really laid out the power dynamic here: Rak thinks of Mut as an object he can buy, use, and discard as he likes (though that is already starting to shift by the end of this episode). He can't stop throwing money at Mut and assuming that's all it will take to control him: witness him sending money to stake his claim when he got jealous, and asking if Mut is amazed to finally see money. He's a rich prick!

But he's a rich prick who is clearly hurting and needs to heal from something, and Mut can see that. And because he's a good person, he cares. I am dying for more context to understand those trauma flashbacks we saw in this episode, and I continue to be impressed with Mut as a competent professional. My favorite scene in this episode was their discussion over lunch at the dock, where they directly discussed their class disparity and the differences in their perspectives about work. When Mut started talking about how hard it is to stay afloat starting a small business and his neighborhood auntie jumped in to underline that poor people have to be exceptional to have a chance, I wanted to kiss this show on the mouth. Mut has been hustling hard to make a life for himself. Rak, by contrast, pursued a career he thought was fun and that gave him an outlet for his sexuality, as his financial privilege allowed him to do.

Speaking of which, another fantastic scene this episode was when Rak checked in with Mut about whether they could be out in his hometown. He framed it as protecting Mut's reputation, but he was also asking about his own safety as an out gay man on this island. It was a small moment, but those are the touches that make this story feel genuinely queer, and I'm glad to see MAME continuing to level up on this in each successive show.

And speaking of leveling up, can we get a round of applause for Fort and Peat, who have somehow already managed to surpass the heat level of their Love in the Air sex scenes. I hardly knew it was possible to do more, but they have proven me wrong and had my jaw dropping a few times in this episode. I really like that they became sexually involved before any real affection has developed between them and that the sex isn't necessarily the thing building their bond; it's the moments when they connect outside of sex that are engaging their emotions. But in the meantime, they clearly have off the charts chemistry and they are both happy to indulge. Power to them!

[scrumptiousstuffs]

This is my first time sending an ask and I promise it will be the last one of this kind. I just want to say that I've read all the other asks and the responses to them, and for me the thing is that people can't bring up First without including Khaotung somehow. But Khaotung gets brought up and talked about on his own or relation to people not First all the time. When his friends do lives he's the one the fans always ask about. And on the few occasions where First is brought up alone people tend to ignore it. It's just how it is. It's cold hard numbers - look how much engagement posts about Khaotung alone or with others get compared to the ones about First alone or with others. And a crowd full of fans screaming when Khaotung asked if they like First isn't really the same thing. What are they going to do, remain silent? I don't think anyone is that rude. But their SM engagement speaks a lot. I can point to several times when someone has started talking about First and the discussion has almost immediately swerved to Khaotung and how amazing he is. I can't do the same the other way. Now I am only on tumblr so maybe it's different elsewhere. I wouldn't know. I do know that Twitter was particularly nasty about First during OF though. Not Sand. First. And there's nothing to be done about it. People are going to like who they like regardless. Maybe the tide will turn at some point, I doubt it, but maybe. But I can't say I don't understand the frustration that is boiling over when I am in the First tag and see more of/know more about what *Khaotung* is doing. It just seems really obvious to me that there's a clear, strong bias. And it's not just the fandom - I can't tell you how many BTS clips I've watched that are all about how amazing Khaotung is, yet First is rarely praised. And I'm not saying Khaotung isn't good. He is. I'm just saying so is First. But the fact that I feel like I can't say First deserves more recognition without someone thinking that I am slagging Khaotung off is also part of the problem, because I have the strong impression that it wouldn't be the same in reverse.

I do think people will stop complaining about it soon, if it helps. It's just letting off a bit of steam in a way that doesn't get them labeled as an anti Khaotung blog. Eventually they'll either move on or accept, and your inbox will be back to being mostly cheerful. And I do want to say that I appreciate reading your answers to them. It must be frustrating to keep getting them when you don't see things that way, and I imagine it feels like an attack of sorts. I don't think it is. Or at least I hope not. You seem lovely and like way more patient a person than I could ever be. Thank you for lending an ear.

Well anons, then you (and I) know what to do. We should all keep hyping First up as well.

I still stand by what I say - I don’t think the majority of the fandom is Khaotung-focus. And what I have seen interviews from directors, they all seem to love FK equally.

But rather than honing on these facts, in the wisdom of my mutual @fadeawayaway - we should keep talking about how great First is as well.

Write those analysis that you want about his acting! I personally still read analysis of his roles in Not Me/TE/MLC/ OF even after these series have finished. I can guarantee you, there will be people like me who wants to read about it. And with hopefully THK bringing in new fans, them engaging about Kant/First when they read your analysis or thoughts about his other characters will put more positive focus on him as well.

Tweet about how you think his acting abilities and his performance against his co-stars (and not just Khaotung), cause I am very very looking forward to his interactions with Babe, Style and Fadel!

I am looking forward to everyone thoughts about Kant when THK comes out (and you will see me become insufferable by retweeting every single gifs and analysis of all four boys).

Hype his singing abilities (he worked hard on this! And it definitely has paid off with the recent meets/concerts). He is a great entertainer on stage and while I jest about his dancing ability (to be fair, I don’t think his bestie is that great either), I have always thought both boys as charasmatic - and I mentioned previously in a different asks, I am always captivated when they are on stage cause they just look so joyful when they performed.

Talk about his host capability and bring attention to it on Twitter - keep his engagement up. So that gmmtv and more fans are aware of his beautiful personality and eloquence when he speaks (because he certainly is! Out of the boys, First is definitely the more natural host and the way he can make guests/the host relax - top notch 🙌)

[sheeple]

Miracles don't exist | 16: Mother knows best

Genre(s): Riddle!reader / Slytherin!reader / kinda slowburn / little happy moments Fandom(s): Harry Potter Pairing(s): Theodore Nott x Reader / Harry Potter x Riddle!reader Summary: Being the Dark Lord's daughter and raised under the strict supervision of the Malfoy's is no easy life. Especially if you start crushing on your father's arch-nemesis, Harry Potter. And that while being engaged to one of his follower’s sons. Warning(s): Puke / Panic attack / Talk about murder and torture [Masterlist] [Mini masterlist] [Playlist]

The DA meeting back from the winter holiday brings the first real smile to your face since Christmas. Everybody's buzzing with energy and ready to learn new spells. 

At the point of practising the new defensive spell on your own, Hermione corners you. "Is it true?", she whispers, casting the defective charm on a target.

A hot flush shoots through your body. She couldn't possibly know about Theodore and you... right? "About what?" You try to keep it cool and cast another spell.

"About you and Harry... before Christmas?"

You feel your cheeks heating up and glance at Harry, who’s at the other end of the room helping Neville. Like he feels you watching, his head snaps up and your eyes meet. He sends you a wide smile before quickly looking back at Neville.

Hermione giggles and looks at you in glee. "How did it happen?"

Now your whole face is almost as hot as a fireplace. "We were discussing going home for Christmas and that I didn't want to go because..." You stop yourself just in time before you can reveal the location of Voldemort. "Because at home isn't the best atmosphere right now. And one thing led to the other and..." You trail off and twirl your wand in your hands, biting your bottom lip.

Hermione giggles again and clasps a hand over her mouth. "Did you enjoy it?"

"He's quite a good kisser, actually." The phantom feeling of Harry's warm hand slides from your cheek to your neck. Your hand reaches out and touches the spot. "What did he say about me?", you ask mildly panicked, the sudden realisation that Harry told something to Hermione — and possibly also Ron!

Your eyes flicker over the room and spot Ron. But he's busy laughing with his brothers to notice you. So Ron knows too? You know you shouldn't care what the boy's opinion is about you. But it hurt when someone calls you a Death Eater while you try your darndest to be anything except what your family expects you to be.

"Well", she begins with a head twitch, "he did tell us it was 'wet', but he said it was nice." Hermione stops to assess your reaction. "Ron made fun of his terible snogging. But he has the emotional range of a teaspoon, so he shouldn't talk."

A smile makes its way onto your face. So he did think it was nice. Good. Great even. Despite everything, you thought it was nice too. And at least you know that you're not too bad of a kisser. But then a face flashes across your face. The same that made you break up the kiss.

"What's wrong?"

You're not sure if you can even tell Hermione. Sure, you're friendly to each other. But are you friends? 

It's like she can sense your turmoil, she grabs your hand. "You can tell me anything." And she says it so sincerely, that you believe it.

You move to the side and wrap your arms around yourself. "I feel so guilty", you whisper. "I like Harry. And I liked the kiss. Really, I do. But…"

"Theodore Nott." Hermione gives you a sympathetic look.

You look with wide eyes towards her. "H-how?"

Hermione lays a comforting hand on your arm, her smile turning soft. "I see the way you look at him. With so much guilt in your eyes that it only means you care deeply for him. And he does the same when you're not looking. He has grown dull since the summer holiday. I don't know what happened between the two of you, but it's obviously hurting the both of you."

You blink at the wise words of the Gryffindor. Your eyes flick towards Harry. If it's so obvious, then why did Harry kiss you? Shouldn't he be shaming you for liking a Death Eater's son?

Like he knows what you're thinking, she says, "boys are as dense as the castle walls."

That makes you laugh. You turn back towards her and grab her hand. "Thank you, Hermione. For being a friend."

She smiles back at you. "It's no problem at all."

You wake up with a yelp. You kick the covers off of you and clutch your arm. Ripping the bandages off, you almost cry out at the pitch-black snake wriggling all over your arm. It feels like someone's repeatedly stabbing your arm. 

Biting on your lower lip, you try to keep your noise to a minimum to not wake up your roommates. Between gritted teeth, you cast muffliato to the heavy velvet drapes around your bed and you let out the first cry.

Your nails dig into your flesh as your left hand contorts in pain. The burning stops after a while and the metallic taste of blood hits your tongue. 

You lay staring up at the ceiling, scared of what you'll see when you close your eyes and go back to sleep. So, as it is almost breakfast time, you get up and get dressed to make your way to the Great Hall. By the time all students are munching on their cereal or sausages and the mail comes, you're almost finished with your toast.

People flock to each other, all looking at the Daily Prophet in students' hands. You roll your eyes. Probably some false accusations about Harry and Dumbledore again.

But as you stand up and make a move to your first class, a hand on your wrist stops you. You look down and Draco wordlessly hands his copy of the Daily Prophet to you. You frown not caring at first but the headline catches your attention.

MASS BREAKOUT FROM AZKABAN

And below is a moving photograph of your mother, screaming and trashing against the chains shackled around her wrists. She looks absolutely insane. 

Blood drains from your face as your hands tremble. No no no NO NO. This can't be happening! She's supposed to be locked up! Azkeban is supposed to be the most secure wizarding prison on the planet!

Bile rises up in your throat. You throw the newspaper down and sprint out of the Great Hall. You burst through the door of the first toilet you encounter and make it just in time before you puke out your breakfast. 

You're sobbing at this point, not knowing if it's because of the puking or because Bellatrix Lestrange is a free woman once again.

You hear the doors being thrown open and a familiar voice calls out your name. Another sob wrecks through your body before the second wave of nausea hits you like a shit ton of bricks.

A pair of hands collect your hair and hold it out of your face, rubbing comforting circles over your back. By the time you finish puking, a mixture of snot and tears runs down your face and you're white-knuckling the porcelain of the toilet bowl.

Looking up, you meet the concerned brown eyes of Theodore. A whimper escapes your lips as he conjures a glass of water and a handkerchief. As you drink up the water and get rid of the foul taste in your mouth, he helps you off the floor and wipes your face clean.

Theodore crouches down as you sit on the toilet lid. He rubs circles over your knees with his thumbs as he asks, "still nauseous?"

You shake your head, sniffing. "No. It's not like I've got anything left in my stomach to spew out." A humourless chuckle leaves your numb lips.

The silence is thick as your eyes are trained on your hands while Theodore's are on you. 

"I felt it happen." Your voice breaks as you look up, a guilty look on your face.

Theodore frowns, not understanding.

"I woke up with i-it burning and it was dark, almost pitch black. It was like he wanted me to know what he has done." Your eyes flick towards your left arm, which is covered by the sleeve of your emerald green sweater.

Hesitantly, Theodore's fingers push up your sleeve and slowly undo the too-tightly-wrapped bandages. You do not dare to look at Theodore's reaction, your bottom lip trembling.

You feel his thumb trace the skin around it, steering clear of the mark. They slide downwards, tracing the lines of your hand before lacing his fingers between yours.

The action makes your head snap towards the dark-haired boy. "I just wanted to protect you", you whisper broken, memories of the day coming back. "He said that because we were courting I am old enough to 'prove myself'."

You rub comforting circles on Theodore's thumb, trying to steady yourself. "He kidnapped a Muggle. I knew him. He used to work at the diner. He was a kind soul. I tried to stop it. But it was no use... The Muggle is dead and I am a..." You choke over your words with a sob. 

"A-and I knew that that would be your fate if I won't obey his every command. He won't kill you, but he's not above torturing loved ones."

Theodore pulls you toward you, wrapping his arms around your trembling body. He holds you tightly against his chest. A hand weaves into your hair as he keeps you close to him. 

It feels safe, to be in his arms. He is warm and inviting and just feels right.

"I can take it, don't worry." Theodore grabs your cheeks with both of his hands to look into your eyes. "I can handle whatever the Dark Lord will throw and you and me and us, just to keep you safe."

You profusely shake your head. "No... I can't let you do that! The Cruciatus Curse is-is the most horrible thing I've ever experienced..."

It takes a few seconds for your words to dawn on Theodore. "He crusio'd you?" The three words are said with so much hatred and venom that you flinch away. Theodore's hands slide from your face to your upper arms, holding you tightly. He rests his forehead against yours. "I'm sorry", he whispers.

You shake your head. You clutch tightly onto his sweater as he raises from his crouching position, helping you onto your feet. 

"Let's get you cleaned up and into bed, okay?"

The way towards the common room is a blur. You only remember Theodore cleaning your face with a wet washcloth and him leaving the bathroom to give you privacy to change. Theodore also makes sure the bandages hide the Mark without hurting you.

As you crawl under the covers, you look up at the brown-haired boy whose kindness you don't deserve for treating him like shit since summer.

"You try to sleep, okay?", he says, petting your hair and planting a kiss on your forehead. "I'll talk to Snape and say you've got a stomach bug or something and that you're not well."

As he turns around to leave, you grab his wrist. He looks at you with raised eyebrows. You cash your eyes down and let go of his wrist. You want to ask him to stay. To stay until you're asleep. Actually... you want him to come lay down next to you and hug you tightly. But you can't ask that of him.

"Thank you, Theo. You didn't need to do it."

Theodore smiles softly, something unfamiliar flickering in his eyes. "Anytime, Darling."

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[dragongirltongue]

New Pinned post <3

Hi there, the name is Zelda, or one of like, 20 other names that may or may not be listed somewhere around here. If you know a name I go by that isn't findable here don't use it. <3

I'm bigender which is made up of girl and fem6oy, as such I use she/her and sometimes he/him pronouns when I'm feeling fem6oy enough <3

I'm in my 30s, not getting more specific than that until I decide it's not true enough to change it, don't try to find my exact age as I don't like sharing that information publicly, I don't even update it on my birthday <3

I'm a polyamorous bisexual voraphile freak and if you're over 18 you're welcome to talk to me about how much of a freak I am. I love to flirt and encourage it. Also happy to share my Other Blog with anyone interested, again as long as you're of age. <3

I'm a film graduate and currently working on doing something with that experience as well as working on a superhero comic and a 2D zelda style game. Feel free to bug me about any of those I love to discuss writing and media and want to encourage media literacy. <3

I'm also an ex-jehovahs witness and as a result I'm hugely into the holiday season in a very against my old god kinda way. Also big into sinning <3

Also I'm like, a dragon in probably an otherkin/thetadelta kinda way, like, it's core to who I am and how I understand myself so yeah. Despite this my fursona is a fox, the dragon in my icon is literally me <3

I also draw sometimes and when I do it'll be posted to @dragongirldrawings but always reblogged here too.

Also I'm a member of a plural system, feel free to check out the rest of the system over here @haven-sys <3

Further on the identity weirdness I'm an imaginary friend for the person who used to inhabit this body, they've been gone for like, over 20 years so it's not really relevant but I have started embracing my nature as a fictional creation, it's comforting.

Btw, if one of my posts containing my typing quirk ends up on your dash I take no responsibility for it. I use it in posts that are for me only and if they happen to resonate with others that's their choice to reblog.

I had intended to set tipping up on my blog for a while but adhd caused me to never get around to it sooo, homebrew tip button on my original posts. Feel free and outright encouraged to steal this idea <3

So yeah that's me, hiii I love you all <3

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DNI list under the read more.

lmao imagine if I actually made one of those finally, that's how you'd know I've been replaced with an evil clone or something.

That being said if you're looking at my blog to send me an ask or dm about what someone gets off to please understand unless they're actively hurting someone I rly don't care. I have a lot of ignored and blocked anons about this.

This goes double if the person you're trying to alert me to is trans femme, we don't play that game here, especially given that I know I've been targetted for things as simple as engaging in vore the wrong way for some people or whatever.

Like, I just want to make it clear I rly don't give a fuck what another adult does in the bedroom, I rly don't care if the bedroom happens to include their blog and I rly don't care if they like to flirt about it with other adults on this website.

Also if your pinned post is a callout for anyone about anything it's likely to set off my paranoia around you, which is to say I will not be able to trust you if this is the case even if it's for someone who's actually a danger to a community, like, actively.

Like, this ain't a moral stance or anything, it's a mental health thing. I see that you want to make your first point of contact into a crosshair on someone else I'm gonna be scared you're gonna aim at me next even if it's completely reasonable that you'd never find anything objectionable with me. It scares me and I'm gonna spend every interaction walking on egg shells around you cos what if you're digging for dirt, like, I got no way of knowing.

Anyway as the opening joke implies I don't see any worth in having a list of things to not interact with me over cos the lived experience on this planet is so full of nuance and I've formed deem friendships with people who'd probably have avoided me if I had a DNI and they cared about it.

I think DNIs are dumb but this feels like a space to talk about some general limits on what I'm gonna put up with on this website. I'm just here for a good time with other freaks, anything else is optional. If you want to drag me into your discourse at this point then I guess this is whre I ask you to Do Not Interact. To anyone else, I love yall <3

If you've been directed here after sending an ask my way please apologize for wasting my time [here]

tl;dr DNIs are dumb but don't drag me into your personal grievances with others.

this post is still specifically a6out tum6lr user Zelda dragongirltongue [tip]

[findafight]

tbh i think ppl that genuinely think steve dragged her there kind of take nancy's behavior at the party in the best light/take nancy at her word bc,,,, we see nancy excited for the party to the point of spending time making a costume and encouraging jonathan to come only for her to start lashing out at steve right after they get there. like i always felt so bad for him when tommy and billy start harassing him and nancy literally rolls her eyes and just stalks off only to start heavily drinking specifically to spite steve given what she says about how she's just acting normal like he wanted (also that smug look she sends him right after continuing to drink). idk the way nancy starts acting out (this makes her sound like a 5 y/o throwing a tantrum but,,,, if the shoe fits) could make it seem as if she's been forced to do something against her will when taken out of context but in context she's literally just acting like a huge asshole to her boyfriend bc she's upset about something she hasn't even told him about. i get upset when i think about it too much bc ppl focus way more on the bullshit scene (for obvious reasons) but nancy really was treating steve like shit that whole night.

yeah like. Owens talks about "the anniversary effect", and I think that's hitting Nancy hard, and so she's lashing out! She's a teenager and she doesn't know how to handle her grief and her desire for justice. That's fine and she deserves to yell and cry about it. But she also isn't communicating what she actually needs from Steve because I don't think she really realized it until she saw the redhead in the library. And dropping that on him and kind of freaking out about it at school wasn't really the most appropriate place to have a deep discussion on what to do. (idk why people view this as steve just flat out refusing to talk about it ever, it's clear to me he's nervous about it because they're at school and he doesn't want to be overheard and doesn't want to risk the government hurting them/their families)

We see Steve do his best to support Nancy by going to the dinners with the Hollands, and also encouraging her to go to the party, after we have been shown Nancy talking about it and inviting Jonathan and excited for it. He is engaging her with something she was looking forward to. idk why people view this as steve just flat out refusing to talk about it ever, it's clear to me he's nervous about it because they're at school and he doesn't want to be overheard and doesn't want to risk the government hurting them/their families. Yeah maybe if she had asked him to come with her on the plan to entrap Owens he would have said no, but at least he would have known where she was at and what she was thinking, instead of the sudden one-off talk they had in the library.

I guess if people only watched tina's party and not anything that came before they could see nancy as completely correct and that steve was pretending while she didn't want to (instead of mostly pretending with Steve and having had one freak out about it in a place that people could overhear) and that he dragged her there. But it's astounding that people can watch Nancy smile and give the flyer to Jon and still say Steve was a bad boyfriend for taking her.

She is definitely drinking vindictively in the scene, even though for all Steve knows Nancy genuinely wanted to go and have fun at the party. He's trying to get her to slow down and idk I've seen some takes as this showing Steve is controlling but legitimately what the fuck else are you going to do when you see someone you care about (friend/partner/whatever) ignoring you and being kind of an ass and drinking way too much while obviously upset about something. Of course he would encourage her to slow down!

He doesn't know what's wrong because Nancy actually has a habit of not talking or communicating to her boyfriend what is upsetting her. Nancy is so over pretending but she has only barely broached that with Steve. He did try to shut it down, but I don't remember him saying he was unwilling to talk about it, just that it was a bad idea, and that Nancy was coming with this "tear the lab down" thing from nowhere.

Part of the problem is that Nancy had feelings for Jonathan and didn't know what to do about that, and so decided that actually, everything was Steve's fault, because he wanted to be normal, he wanted to go to the party and have fun, he wanted to date and be in love, when, to drunk Nancy's mind, she wanted none of that. (even though we are shown that that isn't true) So she's going to drink and she's going to have fun and she's not even in love. (idk it depends on the day for me if nancy was faking the whole time or did, at some point, fall in love with him and then out of love.) The whole party scene is a mess for Stancy and poor Steve has no idea why his girlfriend is drinking too much and suddenly acting like they're fighting when there's no reason to. and then he gets yelled at and told she's pretending to love him.

[vaspider]

So I was talking to my brother earlier about the whole "you're sending your followers to suibait me" silliness that someone said earlier today, and he was pretty upset that someone would say I'd do something like that, bc like... we've both been dealing with and taking care of the same person close to us who's been dealing with suicidal ideation for many many years, so, like, why would anyone think you'd do something like that?

And the first thing I said back was that like... well, they don't know, because I don't tell the entire world, because some shit just ain't their business. Even in talking about it now, there's purposeful obfuscation in how I talk about anything like that, because a) it's not your business and b) some of it isn't even my business, or at least not entirely my business. I've written a lot about my life over the past 20+ years that I've been writing online, but there are a lot of things that happen that I just don't talk about at all, or that I deliberately frame in ways which protect my privacy or the privacy of the people around me. I don't lie about anything, but that doesn't mean y'all know the whole truth, and frankly, that's how it should be. I live my life very much in the open, but I don't live it entirely exposed, and I couldn't do that even if I wanted to do so. No one can, and no one should be asked to do so.

The other thing is that, like, it doesn't bother me because it's so completely out of sync with who I am, and who I've always been, that anybody who would actually believe something like that about me isn't anyone who knows me even the tiniest bit. It might as well have been "vaspider flies to the moon every night and saws off a bit of it for his moon rock collection," because that's about as likely.

We use personal experience as a means of legitimizing discussion online to a level which ends up making people - especially young and/or marginalized people - feel obligated to display the most private corners of their hearts and their gnarliest, ugliest scars just to be able to engage in discussion. And then, a lot of the time, people come in with measuring tape and scales to weigh that trauma and judge Permission To Speak.

Share what you want to share, when you want to share it. You don't owe anyone on here a fucking explanation. I let myself be pushed into coming out on here as a CSA survivor, and it pisses me off that I gave in.

And like... some shit you really just have to laugh at, because it's so surreal.

[jadeylovesmarvelxo]

When love and hate collide

Part two

Summary; What exactly happened in the woods between Eddie and yn?

The Hellfire boys are confused and curious to find out because since the woods saga, there has been a truce between the pair.

Until there isn't...

Yn can't stand Eddie but his eyes are so damn hypnotizing, Eddie can't stand her but he can't get enough of her perfectly kissable lips.

Like a moth to a flame, they can't stay away...

Warnings; Eddie being a little shit, jealousy, the Hellfire boys are confused, enemies to... enemies who fuck ;) slow burn 18+, minors dni

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It had been a few days since what happened in the woods and still the Hellfire boys had no clue exactly what had happened to Eddie and yn.

It was a total mystery and what made things even more baffling is since last Friday Eddie and yn had been... quiet.

Nada, zip, zilch on the arguing front.

At first Lucas had thought that he had gone temporarily deaf because why else would Eddie and yn be silent all of a sudden.

It was unnerving, peaceful yes but still strange.

Then just as he was getting used to the peace and (tentatively discussed with the rest of Hellfire that maybe the weird feud between the two was over) the arguing started again.

So much for peace and quiet but still there was a sense of relief that everything was getting back to normal...

💞💞

Ignoring Eddie no matter how much it pained her to do so lasted for a fair few days because he seemed to be shunning her right-back.

It didn't last long though because whatever drew them together like magnets was inching them back together whether she liked it or not.

She squeezes her eyes shut as memories from last Friday are fresh in her mind. The way her and Eddie just seemed to fit together, how good he made her feel and the mindblowing orgasm that swept over the pair.

That tongue and his talented fingers... she thinks almost dreamily then huffs. Dammit she couldn't stand him yet he had made her come so good, made her feel things she has never felt.

She didn't like this one bit. Why couldnt it be Danny that made her feel like this? It would be so much easier if it was him that she liked.

It would be so much easier if she didn't want to rip Eddie's clothes off and ride him until he was moaning her name, kiss those tattoos or have him buried between the apex of her thighs.

Just her luck the one person she despised knew how to make her body experience pleasure she had only dreamed off.

💞

Meanwhile Eddie was stuck in the same dilemma. Now he knew how fucking incredible he felt being buried inside her, the taste of her that's all his mind could focus on.

Not that anything would happen again... he planned to stay far away from yn and not think about how mindblowing the sex was or the way she clenched around him.

Fuck... he was getting hard just thinking about her and he fucked his hand so many times yet still couldnt get her out of his head.

He should have known really that it would be impossible to stay away from her when they were like moths to a flame...

He tried entertaining Darcy Matthews, who should have been his type, she was into heavy metal, in a band, sarcastic and was friendly enough.

As much as he tried to engage with Darcy's flirting he couldnt because all he could think about was her.

Darcy gave up eventually and moved on to chatting to someone from band and he just could not bring himself to care.

In fact he was more furious that yn had this hold over him.

Then as if just thinking about her conjured her to appear, she was walking up to him, her eyes flashing furiously and then she all but tugged him into an abandoned classroom.

"What the fuck was that Munson?" he gazes at her fuming face and smirks. Shit. He forgot how much he missed winding her up.

"What sweetheart?" he asks innocent but has an idea what she means.

"Flirting with Darcy just to get a rise out of me! Dragging her into your fascination with making my life hell!"

Oh... now this was great he thinks deviously, she's jealous...

The thought pleases him more than it should and that stuns him for a minute until he is pulled back into the conversation by her little huffs of indignation.

"Aww princess, you jealous I noticed someone else?" he didn't-but it was fun to annoy her and the way her eyes flash furiously has him enjoying this very much.

"I am not jealous!" she shrieks and he grins.

"It's alright Princess. I won't tell anyone" her chest is heaving and she is glaring at him.

"You are the most infuriating man I've ever met do you know that Munson?" she moves closer to him and then grins, a wicked little smile that makes him wary.

What is she planning?

Nothing good from that little smirk he guesses and gulps. Shit...

"Guess I'll need to take up Danny's offer of a date, he isn't a pain in the ass like you"

💞

She doesn't know why she mentions Danny but she knows she wants to wipe that stupid, goofy smirk of his face and the minute she mentions him it's like magic.

Eddie's smile disappears, his eyes flash and he has her backed up against the wall.

"That's what you want huh? Some stupid butthead who fumbles around and can't make you come?" he scoffs and she cocks her head amused.

"Eddie. Oh, love don't tell me you're jealous" she slips out of his grasp but he pulls her back.

"Enough fucking games, both of us" he growls and his lips crash onto hers.

💖

"Dustin, Mike groans. We can't find Eddie again!"

Dustin peers up from painting the D&D figures for the campaign and sighs.

"Shit! not again" Mike nods and Lucas joins them.

"That's not the only thing, I only caught a glimpse of it but he was talking with yn again and they headed out of school together"

Dustin gulps then grows confused.

They were talking and not arguing. That was a first.

Mike contemplates this as well.

"Do you think we should go undercover and see what we can find out?" Dustin considers this and shakes his head.

"Better asking Gareth, he has the same classes as Eddie. Maybe he can find out what's up with him and why he's disappearing"

Whatever reason and why it was with yn was a mystery. Max who is passing by and hears their conversation rolls her eyes.

"Oh gee whatever could it be" she mutters and wonders how the three boys could be so blind to what was going on between Eddie and yn.

"What? Like you know any better Max?" Mike asks her annoyed and she shakes her head.

"You three are morons... Let's think why they might sneak off together maybe it's for some privacy...

Mike pauses as he considers this.

"Why would they need privacy?" Max gapes at him and sighs.

"Mike please tell me you aren't that clueless? How does El put up with you? It's so they can kiss or whatever" she doesn't want to think about the rest of it.

The three boys burst out laughing.

"That's a good one Max! Well done. You almost had me there" Lucas grins.

"That's... Ew no" Mike shakes his head.

"They can't stand each other" Dustin points out to Max who stares at them with a look of utter exasperation on her features.

They were hopeless. Idiots she thinks as she walks away and leaves them to their discussion.

She was absolutely certain she was right.

💖💖

He had to get back before the sheeples sent out a search party but he was too engrossed with the fact that yn was naked and on top of him to care much about anything.

His breath hitches as she leans down and kisses over his chest.

He knew sneaking away from his school with her and back to his trailer was a bit risky as anyone could see them but they got back to it without a sighting from anyone.

"I need to go soon Eddie and so do you, I have cheer practice, and your friends wi get suspicious if you miss a meeting"

He pouts but concedes, he'd happily spend all day buried balls deep inside her and hearing her gorgeous moans but she was right.

How can someone who drives him up the wall make him come harder than he's ever had in his life? He didn't understand it.

She drove him mad every single day but the sex was mindblowing, maybe it was all the pent-up tension that surrounded them or some shit like that?

Whatever it was and however much they annoyed the fuck out of each other he just couldn't stay away

[demonsfate]

maybe somewhat controversial but saw somethin on a confessions blog saying this and i guess i do kinda miss when rping felt... sillier at times? like with both the existence of magic anons & dash commentaries. things just feel Stricter or More Serious now? not sure how to put it. dash commentaries do still happen, but not as frequently as i used to. like GOSH, i remember 5+ years ago, i'd have my character saying something bizarre and it would BLOW the entire dashboard up. like almost all my mutuals would be commenting on it, a lot of "silly drama" would happen because of it. some would agree with my muse, some would prosecute them. that doesn't really happen anymore. though, i also understand. i get that ppl have boundaries, but sometimes it really feels like you have to walk on eggshells lest you upset somebody.

i recalled one time this character was just being AWFUL to mine (mine who has done nothing wrong lol) just hurling insults, mistreating them, whateves. so y'know, there were dash commentaries about this and it eventually lead to the other mun getting very upset that their character was being "villainized". and it's like ... don't ... write an antagonistic muse if you don't want that? or the very least, don't write them BEING antagonistic toward innocent people? i mean, when ppl's muses & anons used to bully abaddon, i actually loved it. because indeed deserved it, he's a horrible horrible person who mistreats and kills the innocents. and plus it's just fun ok? i love conflict - regardless if it's angsty, serious, or silly conflict.

and magic anons... i get it can be a flawed concept. (ppl can send their Thinly Disguised Fetishes in it - not that i care but obvs other ppl would rightfully care) but i still thought it was very fun because it's like temporary or mini aus. it plunges characters into otherwise impossible scenarios and then give you new thread concepts based on those scenarios. i'd say even to this day, i still accept magic anons. but that feels pointless to say because they're virtually nonexistent anymore.

this was all i was gonna discuss in this post, but i can also understand why the rpc is often... less engaging anymore? why we have a problem with communication, why we have a problem with less anons being sent out. this isn't a generalization, of course - there are other reasons why this happens. but this is something i've personally experienced in the past, and it makes me think it could be the same for other people. it's just the fear of being blown up at, again - upsetting somebody.

i've seen people be legit hateful towards the anons they get A LOT. like an old rper i've stopped writing with would literally call the anons "assholes" and trying to "ruin fun" because the anons would just comment on the threads or ask questions regarding the threads? and it's like i thought that was supposed to be a common thing... anons like that just help add insight to how the muse is feeling regarding a thread or somethin. but the way they reacted was so unnecessary hostile? when they could've politely told anons to stop or just... fucking deleted the anons like lmao. and it's not just this too but i've seen other people just react bitterly to certain anons they get. or this one time where somebody REQUESTED for CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM and i sent an anon giving my criticism, can't remember quite what it was but obvs i said nothing mean or insulting - i just told them a problem i noticed and gave tips on how they could possibly improve (AGAIN, THEY ASKED FOR THIS) and they later went on their blog talking about how they got ANON HATE???? HELLO????? so yeah, i understand not liking certain anons you get or whatever. but ppl react to them with so much hostility, that it makes everyone else afraid to send anons anymore because they'd rather say nothing than upset the user, especially if they're gonna be potentially villainized for something that is virtually harmless.

then there is just talking to people ooc. hell, i've had somebody who followed one of my old blogs (this was like a few years ago iirc?) and their rules had that blood was one of their triggers. so i told them that i tag that so they don't have to worry and they literally said something like "I didn't ask you to :/" and that's it??? and then they were just rude to me the entire convo until we eventually unfollowed lol. not to mention all the skype & discord contacts i add over the years and then we just stop talking in no time...

anyway, i'm not saying everyone is like this at all! there are MANY super cool people in the rpc, many people i have a lotta fun writing with here. but when you look back at all the bad experiences, or even looking at the bad experiences at are currently unfolding, it makes more and more sense why a lotta the "silly" rp aspects that ceased to exist. why there are no more magic anons, and why dash commentary & anons in general are becoming more and more scarce.

it was this post that inspired me to talk about this. which i actually don't agree with everything op said. in fact, i wouldn't even say the primary issue of current threads is romance or smut. more so, i noticed that fluff / slice of life threads with no conflict is what makes up for most threads nowadays it seems lmao. which is also understandable, because again - it's a popular known issue within the rpc that it's hard to have conflict in threads, lest somebody legit gets their feelings hurt OOC!!! hell, this has happened to me a few times because i often play antagonistic muses. which again, is another issue that makes people feel like they're constantly walking on eggshells. but anyway, it just inspired me to think about and discuss this.

[lover-of-mine]

Unfortunately I think Tommy was always going to play some role/part in any kind of Buddie beginning. I think he was always intended to be the final step, once Tim realized he was using Tommy instead of Donato, because that actress wasn't available. This show loves their parallels. I'm almost certain his last scene will parallel his line from 7x4 when he tells Buck to call Eddie. Then it was to apologize/make up and this time it will be to tell him how how he feels. His original arc was for 4 episodes but once they got renewed Tim slowed everything down. It's clear episodes 7-10 were rewrites. Yes some of it was to set up certain things for the start of season 8 but most of it was filler. And it's definitely clear that whatever the original plan was for Buck and Eddie this season got pushed to season 8. Once Tim slowed things down, he expanded Lou's arc, but his purpose didn't change. Whatever the original plan for him was is still going to be the plan. As long as he leaves, I don't care if he's present when Buck has his moment of realization. I never minded Tommy being that. I have many, many, many issues with Lou, but I can be fine with Tommy being Buck's final push. If I end up with Buddie, watch how fast I don't care about anything leading up to it.

The actors have all said Tim is very collaborative and Jennifer/Kenny, Angela/Peter all said their opinions were asked when it came to their 'endgame' relationships. Oliver and Ryan won't be any different, their opinions will be asked. He won't force them to do something they genuinely don't want to do. If Oliver genuinely says no to Tommy, I'm pretty sure that request would be respected. But if Oliver isn't given Buddie I don't know if he'll actually care who Buck ends up with. I think Ryan would be the same. If they don't get Buck and Eddie, I don't think either will care who their character ends up with.

Fandom never has as much power as we tell ourselves we do. And the size of the B/T fandom is not big. It just feels big to us because we have to see them everyday on here. But when you look at official show posts their numbers are not that big. It's always the same people who comment. What really hurts them actually is how openly nasty they are to people involved in the show. When Ryan did his mental health podcast he got several messages from them saying they wished he had gone through with his s#$cide because it would make more room for Tommy scenes. Several of them openly discussed sending him those messages. That is an entirely different level of disgusting. Multiple people involved with the show have had to block them or publicly scold them for their behavior on social media. This is not normal. Shows don't usually have to be so vocal and open about blocking and filtering. Tim had to publicly walk back engaging with them and said he wouldn't be doing it again. No one involved in the show has interacted with them since Tim said that btw. So I have no problem believing he put a stop to the cameo stuff. It was actively encouraging increasingly inappropriate behavior. There's a difference in being a zealous fan and crossing into the territory some of them have crossed into.

Okay, first of all, no shade to you, I blame tiktok and twitter and censoring posts with certain words, I just have to say it, don't do that on tumblr, we have a very effective blacklist system going, posts don't get censored based on words, when writing things like suicide like s#$cide, you're just making people who have the word suicide filtered see the post. Don't do it. Just write the word. It's okay.

I agree with you to some degree with Tommy's purpose, but the thing is, when you look at Tommy telling a Buck he went on one date with and kissed twice "hey dude, it wasn't about me" has a COMPLETELY different effect than having someone Buck is actively trying to build a relationship with say the same thing. Buck and Tommy have been together for up to two months, depending on how the time jump goes and how long Tommy sticks around you can't have someone who Buck has been putting effort into up to 6 months say that. And I don't think the show plans on jumping Buck straight into Eddie. They haven't been slowburning like this so that all it takes is Buck's boyfriend of months being like "maybe you should call Eddie" and there we go. Not unless they are planning on making Tommy find out about the will and make that create problems because since Buck is bi the whole "you have a kid with your best friend" thing will be a problem because anyone who respects his queerness will be like "hey, what the fuck? how can you be sure you're not in love with him" and with reason. There's also the way Buck initiates his breakups. Unless they're changing this particular pattern now when Tommy has been all of his relationships smashed into one, Tommy doing that doesn't add up. I'm not saying Buck realizing he has feelings for Eddie can't be the cause of the breakup, I just think that's harder to pull off in a good way now that Tommy is a love interest of multiple seasons. They would have to make Eddie be an actual problem not just a presence for it to work, since they are already changing the way the plot goes, it can be easier to just add other problems to the relationship since they will be going on for longer. But that's my opinion as a writer. I also think that they would want to stir away from the narrative that Eddie is a rebound and that Buck is just jumping from relationship to relationship. If they plan on showing any growth from Buck, Buck can't just break up with Tommy for Eddie. The whole thing with the couch was about Buck choosing himself. Buck needs to choose himself. Having Buck just realize the relationship wasn't working or ran its course is the ideal breakup for me if this is the last relationship before buddie. I need Buck of the hamster wheel and the hamster wheel includes jumping from relationship to relationship when you consider the way he lets go of Abby, sleeps with Taylor, and starts dating Ali in the span of one episode. There are better ways to get buddie there. There are better ways to do it than giving such an important moment for the show to Tommy. Buddie is a relationship that's been cooking for years. I refuse to believe the best they can come up with is "my boyfriend said I'm in love with you". They made Tommy too irrelevant to give him that big of a role. But again, my opinion.

And yeah, it's one thing when fans are being chaotic with fans, it's a different thing when they start creating this many problems with the cast when crew, that's for sure.

[asexual-society]

I have known I was asexual for nearly a decade now. That part of my identity has always been clear. I experience zero sexual attraction, and am sex-neutral. (with a slight lean towards sex repulsed) Recently, as in just within the past year, I have begun having sexual intrusive thoughts as I heal my trauma. How do I explain to someone who isn't asexual and quite honestly doesn't understand the difference between romantic and sexual attraction, that the intrusive thoughts are different from sexual attraction?

I know I don't owe anyone an explanation, but I really care about this person, and I want them to understand this about me

Tumblr ate my answer to this, which was. Quite Frustrating. So I'm sorry it took so long to get around to answering it properly.

I don't have a lot of experience with explaining intrusive thoughts I'm afraid, but having resources to hand about what they are as a baseline might be a valuable tool as a starting point, since it can be hard to verbalise your own experiences to someone who has no prior knowledge, especially with something very personal like this. (Here are some which seemed comprehensive, but you might want to find your own if some are more or less relevant to your situation X, Y, Z. Note, the last article discusses negative reactions the author experienced towards their OCD, if you want to give that a miss.)

I think understanding that intrusive thoughts (of any variety) are unwanted is important in distinguishing between them and attraction, so it might help to draw a direct line connecting your intrusive thoughts with non-sexual intrusive thoughts, since they're more similar to each other than sexual intrusive thoughts are to sexual attraction. For someone who experiences sexual attraction, I'd always hope that they could see how this was different from their experiences of attraction, but it can be pretty difficult for people who have never thought about what sexual attraction is to collect those specific feelings under that label (and not catch a bunch of other feelings in with that definition too).

Sexual attraction (because it's helpful to be have a dictionary definition to fall back on, although I'm sure you know) is an attraction that makes someone want to engage in sexual acts with a specific person. It isn't fun or sexy to describe it like that, and it can seem complicated for sex favourable ace people, since they might also decide they want to have sex with someone, while not being attracted to them in that way, but I kind of imagine it like the difference between putting two magnets next to each other and two pennies. Magnets will be attracted to one another, but pennies need some sort of external influence (even if the external feeling is "it seems fun so why not"). But I digress. Thinking about sex isn't the same as wanting sex, and wanting sex isn't the same as attraction, just like thinking about eating a food you're violently allergic to isn't the same as wanting to have an allergic reaction, which isn't the same as actually triggering an allergic reaction, you get the idea.

I hope this is somewhat helpful, if it isn't feel free to send another ask and I'll do my best to get to it a little quicker next time, but I hope you're doing okay.

~ mod key

[goldenpinof]

Knowing how left-leaning their audience is I definitely think it's been a cop-out on dnp's behalf to not say enough about the genocide, especially considering they're white Brits, the UK has caused half the problem here.

That said, your discussions about their management getting sponsorship deals and 'getting money from zionists and donating to palestine' thing reminded me of something else I observed. Like with Jacksepticeye's thankmas stream, when he announced the donations will go to World Central Kitchen, I realised he's talking around the issue a lot, saying stuff like "with all that's happening in the world" and even WCK in the stream talking about war vaguely, and I had made sure to look through their website to check that yes they were indeed sending aid to Palestine. And I understand the logic there from both Sean and WCK that there's a big audience that they're trying to take advantage of, but if you take any strong political positions beyond "charity good, helping war torn regions good" then it might lose you a lot of donations and derail the fundraiser making it harder to get that aid in the first place. I've seen similar things happen with a lot of well meaning people who try to keep their political positions away from the public eye.

Personally of course I'd prefer to see dnp say more about these topics and engage in important stuff like that. But the discussions about the management getting those sponsorships also makes me wonder if purely strategically speaking it helps to keep controversial things out of the public eye to be able to gain the funds to donate in the first place. My main problem here isn't them getting paid by Amazon, it's the fact that they're promoting and giving a platform to that company at all. Idk how far you can negotiate that stuff with your managers but if there's ever a time to put your foot down it's with this.

Nevertheless, I can also see the merits to an approach where you try not to alienate sources of funds which can do more for aiding a cause than paying lip service would have, but at the end of the day it's up to every individual how they navigate this and what they give more importance to, and I can live with the fact that some people walking that line in the public eye can help get funds on a larger scale. It's not what everyone should do, more of us and especially celebrities who have less to lose/have loads more influence like a listers should be speaking up and not mincing our words, but perhaps there's a particular social position where not alienating big sponsors and donors can help that individual do more good in the long term.

~ 🪴

P.s. sorry about the long essay I've been thinking about that particular social dynamic ever since the thankmas charity stream bc again it raised a LOT of money that way

about Amazon i completely agree. promotion does more damage than dnp getting paid by Amazon. they technically can donate that cheque to Palestine, if they want to. but Amazon will still get money from some of the audience, and dnp working with someone like this one sends a confusing message to their audience.

i wish those things weren't labelled as controversial. and, to be clear, i'm not saying dnp should scream about genocide and war every day or every week. that would have the opposite effect. just, you know, simple reminders here and there, verified links to charities and protests/marches.

i don't really have anything to add to your ask. thank you for sharing, a lot to think about! <3

[straightlightyagami]

sorry i would really like to have the patience to be nice and engage in discussion with everyone as i once did but i genuinely have a hard time believing someone can be THIS stupid for real and not just be trolling or baiting. this is the condescending 20 paragraph ask i got before. like genuinely 2 years ago i would have answered it point by point but at this point frankly if you don't put in the fucking effort to think and to make a coherent argument i'm not putting it in for you. i'm not steelmanning a position of someone who engages with this level of lack of respect, this is my fucking blog and maybe i would have a modicum more of patience if you had the decency to send this off anon or in dms but you didn't. don't fucking talk to me like this and expect me to hold your hand and explain to you like to a 5 year old more than i already did

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Anon ask reading:

I am the anon about the climate migration

Not sure your intentions by moving the goal post with your answer but i will try again. Bear with my bad english and lack of editing.

you are using the dimished responsability falacy. climate change is global. it comes from humans everywhere. EVERY COUNTRY HAS TO CHANGE.From the poorest to the richest. From the islands to the landlocked. Everyone can do their part. Decisive collective action is the solution. Everyone who thinks fleeing will save their lives, meet the exhausted from the fight. Europe and europeans are not magic people that create all the problem and solve all the problems but if they are ready for this mess, applauses from me and keeping doing it because I am 100% sure europe is going to suffer with the rise of sea levels (already are) and the desertification (of the south specially).

Others countries need to refocus. They need to care about climate change. Is your invasion of papua new guinea that important indonesia??? shouldn't you be worried about the rising sea levels???? i see your people knocking on europe's door... But where is the FOCUS.

Now if Europe is the good student and tries to change it's ways, why do we have to give them extra problems. A sudden increase of population that's hard manage in climate crisis (now add every otherissue). The boat sinks.

If this about people drowning in the mediterranean sea, not one of them is moving because of climate change. Be real please. And why don't hold northen african countries accountable in the same way? you say by ANY MEANS NECESSARY but only europe et al. has to work on it. I mean whatever hits Morocco, hits Spain (both colonizers, both imperialist, both monarchies, similar location and Spain is richer but also the one with more internal conflict), but for you the people of one are guilty and the other are a victim. Many means necessary were not used before they reached Europe...

Nationalism has always being worse than fascism. Fascists betray their own much quicker than nationalists. And honestly they can both die in the next two seconds and I wouldn't miss them.

now your response

I am looking at ND Index you sent. HOW is it possible that brazil... one of the most powerfull economies, huge country that very much could just stop bulldozing the amazon for cattle is worse... than UKRAINE? I am sure ukraine would love to be worried about climate change only right now... I sawthe brazilian floods earlier this year and also saw them wanting more picanha (also pretty low on the readiness) and making sure they have it.

India is worse than Fiji? Fiji knows it's coming and tries but India is chilling what is this about? IS ABOUT FOCUS! India is worried about idk but it isn't climate change (or femicide but that's another global issue)

looking at the lowest how do you justify Angola? Another huge country, not an island, not at war, full of natural resources but the most powerfull people come from the oil industry don't they? did we find any points for change instead of PACK YOUR BAGS PEOPLE WE ARE MOVING TO SAN MARINO!

Look at the readiness index of Tuvalu and Barbados. Tiny islands! they beat Spain and Turkey! FOCUS AND CHANGE PLEASE

remember the critical thinking i asked you to do? do it!

Now the internal climate migration chart. how is this relevant to your europe et al are bad people for their laws? subsaharan countries are pretty big compared to european countries. Easily you move away within a larger country than a small one. In a small one i would assume the migration would be away from the country. Again decisive action seems to help with it all (orange bars).

now the personal question,

why are people being displaced? multiple reasons. War, Greed, Tourism, Agriculture, Invasions, Occupations, Human Ego.

a non evil reason why are people being displaced? You are right to say climate change is the less evil one because it's human action versus earth/nature/ecosystem reaction. Everyone is guilty in some capacity. Following that logic, I guess it has to be ego from the displaced. build your house on the river bed all you want but don't tell me you are drowning when the raining season comes. I guess they become displaced by their own actions versus nature. Non humans are always innocent. rivers are innocent, plants, beasts, mountains, rocks, bacteria, etc... all innocent.

What should be done about the non evil reasons?? More protected areas interdicted to human settling. let nature be nature. let some ecosystems not have humans directly in them. No fishing no cattle no hunting no housing no mining. Human protecc for once!

[saiyanandproud]

Let's go with uuuuh 17, 18, aaaand 29

Munday Mumbling Asks - send a number for me to talk about one of the following topics!

17. Fanon interpretations

I guess fanon interpretations are unavoidable in a fandom -- even just by watching a show and giving one's own thoughts on the motivations behind a character's actions, one inevitably makes a fanon interpretation -- simply, the more they stray off from the original content, the more... Personalised and creative they can become. I think, like anything in RP, the issue is not as much as what the interpretation is, but how it's played out. I RPed with muns who introduced a canon character as trans, and though I was... Quite confused at first, their writing was just so good, and the way they incorporated their interpretation with the muse so fitting, that I ended up having a really great time. Especially with so many people taking on similar muses, the way everyone plays their own version can make it unique and offer different writing experiences, so, to be honest, bless that. Now, one's own interpretation could not be everyone's cup of tea -- which, fair, and the easiest solution is to simply not engage rather than actively antagonising it or -- worse -- throwing shade at it. But my personal advise is to study the mutual, see their writing, before deciding whether or not you'd like to interact with them just because their interpretation of the character is different, or unusual. If you keep an open mind, RPing can give you some pretty awesome surprises.

18. Shipping

Who doesn't love shipping. We all do, let's be honest. I certainly do. This being said, I need it to have certain elements for me to make the experience worthwile and engaging. Kinda like a recipe, a good shipping needs the right ingredients, and the ones I'll mention are simply those thay work for me. First of all, some plotting. My best experiences came from both me and my mutual hinting that we saw some potential, and discussing how we wanted to play it out: the potential narrative twists, how they would have impacted the character, if it was going to have a happy ending (it's not for granted!) and what would happen next. Second, a good build up. Sure, dash-shenanigans allow flexibility and to jump from point to point, but for me to enjoy the ship, I need the actual writing to take place somewhere, behind the curtains through intense plotting even, but I need to know where the muses stand and how they feel about it. As fun as they are, dash shenanigans to me do not equal character writing unless otherwise discussed with the mutual. Similarly, having shippy interactions through dash shenanigans can feel quite void if there isn't an actual build up of the relationship behind it. Third, how to feed it. Shipping is like a fire, you need to give it right and constant fuel -- AKA creativity. Just because the couple is established, it doesn't mean there can't be further challenges for the relationship dynamics. How about hidden fears? Secrets that have never been confessed? Arguments? Everything can shape it further and give more fun to the writing! And last but not least -- mutual respect. Just like in any RP dynamic, nothing should be forced onto the mutual. If there seems to be a disagreement, it's important to work around it and find a good solution, or a compromise -- or, as sad as it can be, accept that the ship is maybe not meant to be. And, well, at least there's a chance to write the break-up. Painful maybe, but still an engaging chance if you're up to take it.

29. Blocking

Blocking is a user's right, basically. I've used it on a few occasions, and not necessarily because I had beef with the other user. Sometimes, there can be some content that can embitter the dash experience for whatever reason, and in that case blocking can be a quick, painless solution. This being said, I've only resolved to this when I didn't have much of a relationship with the other mutual -- I wasn't going to miss them, and they likely weren't going to miss me, maybe because there was never an actual, constant interaction between us. I have never blocked a mutual I had a good or frequent enough relationship with; firstly because I never had a reason to (luckily), and secondly because I usually prefer to discuss potential issues before resolving to blocking the other person. This would be my usual go-to advice, as well as an open invitation to come talk to me if there is ever something that's causing tension or perceived as such. I always appreciate a constructive confrontation, and would rather have a tough discussion and solve it rather than losing a potential mutual without knowing why. But again, to each their own.

[telleroftime]

It is a spectrum though. You’re literally ignoring your own people and trying to shut them down because they’re not EXACTLY like you. I’m ace and have been married for 15 years. Love my husband dearly, still ace. People like me exist and I’m fucking tired of a bunch of teenagers yelling about how we don’t, and that people are wrong for bringing up that we do. Literally fuck off, we are not all the same.

Okayy, this is regarding the Alastor post I assume so let's get straight into that.

The two posts I have made about the issue are both about me advocating that asexuality is a spectrum and that people jumping on the defensive and claiming how "Alastor can't be in a relationship" and "Alastor is ace so he can't have sex" are inherently wrong. Naturally there are people that are aceflux, demisexual, etc. and asexuality is beyond what the stereotype dictates. Some ace people are sex repulsed, others are hypersexual. Some feel little sexual attraction and some feel none at all yet still engage with sexual relationships. There isn't one little box that all asexuals fit under, and the same goes to the aromantic spectrum.

I thought I made this view clear in my recent post but I suppose I should have worded it better. I'm the one commenting that "he can engage in those sorts of relationships." There are too many people that comment the fact Alastor is asexual as a sort of shut-down of Alastor thirst-traps and edits. So much that it gets irritating. Most are people that want to don the white-knight armour and defend the illusion of what they think being asexual is, whilst others are people that don't understand that asexuality does not mean sex-repulsion. Arguing back with those people is amusing to me and at the same time I hope to break through some of the miss-information and stereotypes that non-asexual people seem to hold.

I completely understand if you haven't read over the comments under the other post seeing as I think you came from the more recent one - I don't expect that you have read them so please don't see this as an attack, I understand if you haven't - but I've made my stand on this pretty clear and inline with what you've sent in:

"We're not told what type of ace he is and where he fits under the umbrella. The most we've seen in regards to his opinion is the "haha, never going to happen" comment. Like with any label, asexuality is a spectrum. He could be be aceflux or demisexual."

"People need to understand that having an ace character fuck or headcanoning them to be somewhere else on the ace spectrum is not erasure."

And yeah, that post was regarding that whole "ace erasure" discourse but I'm not going to get into that again. I'll only directly quote the main body of that post: "An asexual person can fuck. Just... in case people didn't know. They can because libido is not exclusive to sexual attraction. Just saying." (Once again, I'm not expecting you to have read that before sending the ask in).

Overall I'm sorry that you felt personally attacked over that and sorry that the way I worded the post seemed to have brought on some confusion. I know asexuality is a spectrum. I know each asexual person is different. I wish other people understood that before throwing Alastor into a neatly defined box and bashing others when they take him out of it. Once again, I'm sorry that my wording caused confusion.

(Although, I would have been happy to simply discuss this topic with you, but if cursing at me makes you feel better then I supposed you can go ahead. Not like I really mind.)

[dipplinduo]

(Me being sad that the thought I’ve been putting into headcanons for dipplinshipping and kieran himself are going down the drain due to the asks not being answered)

Nooooo anon don't be sad!!! It's always my intention to engage and interact with you guys, it's literally my favorite thing about using Tumblr and being involved in the dipplinshipping community. I promise you I am reading everything, and I want to read your thoughts! It just takes me a little time to get to them. <3 And to prove I mean that, here's some straightforward transparency:

I was working on Chapters 7 & 8 of S&S Dipplins over the past few days, and when I'm writing, it is a timeeee suckeerrrrr, so I've had less time for asks.

I've also been relatively active in the discord server (that's centered around discussions & supporting other creatives in general) and on AO3 when people engage with my writing on there.

Sometimes I'm contemplating how I'm going to be responding to asks, and may delay responding so I can give a more thought-out response rather than just posting it without interacting back.

I try to be mindful about the content that I'm posting. I often receive asks that reference other media I'm not familiar with, and I actually have a process where I set aside some time to screen the media myself so I can do my best to make sure nothing inappropriate, harmful, or insensitive is referenced in a way where it could cause discomfort to the community.

On a similar note, there are some cases where asks appear to be too inappropriate for one reason or another (in which case, I do not interact) or border a line where I need some time to reflect on whether or not I feel its appropriate to interact with publicly; I have a pretty big comfort zone myself, but I try to account for others' comfort, too. This blog is almost a month old now, and I'm still trying to figure out the overall tone of it as it experiences growth. Part of that involves figuring out how to be intentional with what content I'm curating, and that takes time.

For the asks that are about/related to my fic writing: sometimes I may choose not to respond due to spoilers (whether it be if someone correctly guessed something or got close enough for some spoilers, or if someone is reacting very immediately to a chapter I might've literally just posted. I tend to delay responding in these instances to wait for others to have time to read updates so they don't encounter unwanted spoilers on Tumblr).

I try to respond to asks in bursts, and often try to group them together when I can (e.g., answering a group of asks that appear to be related in theme). But even then, I can't quite get through them all in one sitting. This is a screenshot of my inbox at the time of writing this:

...and this number may fluctuate at times (e.g., sometimes people may send in more asks when they see I'm actively online and answering asks).

That being said: this response isn't meant to complain or create excuses for ask delays in the slightest - I am very lucky and privileged to experience this level of engagement from you all across platforms, and it's something I really want to handle with care. I know a lot of you have likely followed me because of the way asks function in this blog, and it's quite literally a charm that cannot operate without you guys. I'm just hoping this breakdown can clear some air so you can know that there are a lot of moving pieces, and it is never my intention to exclude anybody when they reach out and interact. You have all been wonderful to me and I intend to treat you with the same respect. <3

I'm answering asks again right now, and will be on the lookout for headcanons & kieran-focused questions!